Sympathy or Reality.... Cardoso Ayodeji
There was a time in my life that every single girl I came across had a rape story. It got so rampant and worrisome.
Then over time I got to realize many of these girls say this as an attempt to;
1. Get sympathy or empathy from a guy.
2. Give an impression they are good girls should it get to sex and you discover they are non virgins, since every guy wants a good girl.
3. Paint a narrative that their only sexual experience(s) was due to rape or sexual abuse and not because they are some loose girl.
Now don't get me wrong. Some were genuine, while a lot were just made up.
Come with me.
Do you know that disflowering a girl can almost be likened to rape? Do you also know that if the man didn't keep trying until successful, many women always almost would have a rethink or eventually wish it didn't happen?
Every first attempt for most came with pains and the intermittent NO, PLEASE, STOP etc, which many men refused to heed and in the case of non virgins, were interpreted to mean keep trying or continue.
So going by NO means NO, STOP means STOP, many if not all men today should be behind bars. Yeah?
Now some of such girls interpret these experiences and attach with the three points highlighted above in mind, telling every guy they meet until it becomes their TRUTH. Remember the saying, when you keep telling a lie over and over, it becomes the truth? Yeah, typical of humans generally, by the way.
Before my battery went flat and out till this morning, I read so many write ups and comments from so many men condemning rape and equally from so many women sharing their near rape and actual rape experiences and I am like, so who are the MEN RAPING OR ATTEMPTING TO RAPE THESE WOMEN? Oh I forgot, they are not on social media. Some of these women have these guys on their friends list or facebook generally, condemning what they are likewise guilty of and they are not dragging them now. Or we should all wait many years from now when it's worth dragging?
I watched the Busola video and I tried as much as possible to detach emotions. Honestly, it is difficult to not believe her story especially because Pastor Biodun's lifestyle is also VERY questionable to not believe he is GUILTY!
Rape is a very terrible act to think someone accused of such heinous act would take this long to speak.
Personally, I am always not quick to speak on rape because it is a delicate and emotional matter which often times opinions can be misinterpreted and also especially because we likewise have some cases which turned out false and most times goes unpunished.
Nevertheless, its an interesting turn the COZA pastor finally put out words even though not CONVINCING enough, but then, a person remains innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Not on social media.
Now the problem is. How does she prove this in court after so many years? How can many prove theirs too after taking several years to speak up?
My take is, can we create a system that encourages victims to speak up, if not immediately, at least get proof (doctor's or police report) almost immediately?
Else, we would be repeating today, the same mistake we made when there was no social media.
Good afternoon.
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Then over time I got to realize many of these girls say this as an attempt to;
1. Get sympathy or empathy from a guy.
2. Give an impression they are good girls should it get to sex and you discover they are non virgins, since every guy wants a good girl.
3. Paint a narrative that their only sexual experience(s) was due to rape or sexual abuse and not because they are some loose girl.
Now don't get me wrong. Some were genuine, while a lot were just made up.
Come with me.
Do you know that disflowering a girl can almost be likened to rape? Do you also know that if the man didn't keep trying until successful, many women always almost would have a rethink or eventually wish it didn't happen?
Every first attempt for most came with pains and the intermittent NO, PLEASE, STOP etc, which many men refused to heed and in the case of non virgins, were interpreted to mean keep trying or continue.
So going by NO means NO, STOP means STOP, many if not all men today should be behind bars. Yeah?
Now some of such girls interpret these experiences and attach with the three points highlighted above in mind, telling every guy they meet until it becomes their TRUTH. Remember the saying, when you keep telling a lie over and over, it becomes the truth? Yeah, typical of humans generally, by the way.
Before my battery went flat and out till this morning, I read so many write ups and comments from so many men condemning rape and equally from so many women sharing their near rape and actual rape experiences and I am like, so who are the MEN RAPING OR ATTEMPTING TO RAPE THESE WOMEN? Oh I forgot, they are not on social media. Some of these women have these guys on their friends list or facebook generally, condemning what they are likewise guilty of and they are not dragging them now. Or we should all wait many years from now when it's worth dragging?
I watched the Busola video and I tried as much as possible to detach emotions. Honestly, it is difficult to not believe her story especially because Pastor Biodun's lifestyle is also VERY questionable to not believe he is GUILTY!
Rape is a very terrible act to think someone accused of such heinous act would take this long to speak.
Personally, I am always not quick to speak on rape because it is a delicate and emotional matter which often times opinions can be misinterpreted and also especially because we likewise have some cases which turned out false and most times goes unpunished.
Nevertheless, its an interesting turn the COZA pastor finally put out words even though not CONVINCING enough, but then, a person remains innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Not on social media.
Now the problem is. How does she prove this in court after so many years? How can many prove theirs too after taking several years to speak up?
My take is, can we create a system that encourages victims to speak up, if not immediately, at least get proof (doctor's or police report) almost immediately?
Else, we would be repeating today, the same mistake we made when there was no social media.
Good afternoon.
Follow on Facebook@Cardoso Ayodeji
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